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  • Do I need you or do I want you? No, I simply want you. I love the way you make me feel, how you make me laugh, how you make me feel beautiful and how you make me feel like time just flies when we’re together. I love how you make me feel but it isn’t something I need. Why? Because whatever happens between us, life goes on. 
          - with or without you.                   
  • To live, we don’t need anyone.  People have become so dependent on having a partner or just need to have people around them. We are around people and with our partners because we CHOOSE to.


People think they NEED to absolutely have a partner so they spend lots of time going out of their way to look for their ‘ soul mate ‘.

To need something implies dependency and reliance.

To need someone in times of crisis or extreme sadness is completely normal but needing constantly becomes suffocating. Mind you, this does not apply to young children for nurturing or financial support. This relates more for two functional adults, friendships and relationships.

Needs and wants can camoflauge into making you believe you love a person.
In the beginning of a relationship, a needy trait in someone is easily overlooked because you are so infatuated with that person.  Over time, you may realize that it starts to become a turn off.  When you fall in love you become so accustomed to that person that your want becomes need. You begin to feel that you cannot live without that person.

If you truly love someone, wouldn’t you want to KNOW that the person you’re with is actually happy and love themselves enough that they don’t need you? One doesn’t need to depend on you? In my opinion, its a nice feeling. Now there are those who are not happy unless they can feel that you actaully NEED them. Is that fair?
It doesn’t sound genuine to me. It sounds more like a set up for a toxic relationship. Why? Because as soon as someone thinks you NEED them, they will step all over you. Sooner or later, it will end up being thrown at your face.

As they say “never eat with those who brag about feeding you“. 
These people don’t want you to think you can stand alone. If your partner does something for you, it should be because they genuinely wanted to. Not because they felt like they had to or needed to. Needing someone doesn’t mean you are loving them. I know when someone is needy when they start to lose the desire to complete tasks on their own.

There is way more to loving someone than thinking you need to depend on them for everything. 

Couples do things for each other, Thats a given. But when you think they NEED to do something for you constantly,  thats called being dependent or reliant.
Some people are so needy that they stay in relationships with people that they absolutely don’t want to be with anymore. Why do they do that? They’ve become so reliant to their partner because he or she was a handy man, a good cook, takes care of you financially.. etc.

People search for whomever will make them happy. What happens when that person is no longer there? You’re no longer happy. You were depending on that person to make you happy all the time. Ultimately, real happiness is found within yourself. These are life situations where you will never be happy and always feel stuck.
Needs and wants can be replaced if you feel you found something better to please you.

Once you know that you don’t need anyone. You will experience freedom and save yourself from unwanted pain.
You will know you never needed anyone just to make you feel appreciated and worthy. All you needed was you and self-love!
  • Listening to: Say you won't let go - James Arthur
This was such a fun video shoot. In the Summer time I am a panda 🐼
  • Do I need you or do I want you? No, I simply want you. I love the way you make me feel, how you make me laugh, how you make me feel beautiful and how you make me feel like time just flies when we’re together. I love how you make me feel but it isn’t something I need. Why? Because whatever happens between us, life goes on. 
          - with or without you.                   
  • To live, we don’t need anyone.  People have become so dependent on having a partner or just need to have people around them. We are around people and with our partners because we CHOOSE to.


People think they NEED to absolutely have a partner so they spend lots of time going out of their way to look for their ‘ soul mate ‘.

To need something implies dependency and reliance.

To need someone in times of crisis or extreme sadness is completely normal but needing constantly becomes suffocating. Mind you, this does not apply to young children for nurturing or financial support. This relates more for two functional adults, friendships and relationships.

Needs and wants can camoflauge into making you believe you love a person.
In the beginning of a relationship, a needy trait in someone is easily overlooked because you are so infatuated with that person.  Over time, you may realize that it starts to become a turn off.  When you fall in love you become so accustomed to that person that your want becomes need. You begin to feel that you cannot live without that person.

If you truly love someone, wouldn’t you want to KNOW that the person you’re with is actually happy and love themselves enough that they don’t need you? One doesn’t need to depend on you? In my opinion, its a nice feeling. Now there are those who are not happy unless they can feel that you actaully NEED them. Is that fair?
It doesn’t sound genuine to me. It sounds more like a set up for a toxic relationship. Why? Because as soon as someone thinks you NEED them, they will step all over you. Sooner or later, it will end up being thrown at your face.

As they say “never eat with those who brag about feeding you“. 
These people don’t want you to think you can stand alone. If your partner does something for you, it should be because they genuinely wanted to. Not because they felt like they had to or needed to. Needing someone doesn’t mean you are loving them. I know when someone is needy when they start to lose the desire to complete tasks on their own.

There is way more to loving someone than thinking you need to depend on them for everything. 

Couples do things for each other, Thats a given. But when you think they NEED to do something for you constantly,  thats called being dependent or reliant.
Some people are so needy that they stay in relationships with people that they absolutely don’t want to be with anymore. Why do they do that? They’ve become so reliant to their partner because he or she was a handy man, a good cook, takes care of you financially.. etc.

People search for whomever will make them happy. What happens when that person is no longer there? You’re no longer happy. You were depending on that person to make you happy all the time. Ultimately, real happiness is found within yourself. These are life situations where you will never be happy and always feel stuck.
Needs and wants can be replaced if you feel you found something better to please you.

Once you know that you don’t need anyone. You will experience freedom and save yourself from unwanted pain.
You will know you never needed anyone just to make you feel appreciated and worthy. All you needed was you and self-love!
  • Listening to: Say you won't let go - James Arthur

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:icondcastro1981:
DCastro1981 Featured By Owner Sep 12, 2016
Happy birthday.
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:iconacurmudgeon:
acurmudgeon Featured By Owner Sep 12, 2016
Happy birthday!  I hope you come back some day.  :heart:
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darquiel Featured By Owner Sep 12, 2016  Hobbyist Artist
Happy B-Day!
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Arting100 Featured By Owner Sep 12, 2016  Student Traditional Artist
Happy Birthday x
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SleepingGodCthulhu Featured By Owner Dec 13, 2015
Would you mind if upload your images to pininterest? Just looking for permission.
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SkyfireDragon Featured By Owner Sep 12, 2015   Artisan Crafter
Party Happy Birthday, Diana! Green Dragon
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SixstringMatt Featured By Owner Sep 12, 2015
Happy Birthday, Diana! :hug: :party: :cake:
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:iconacurmudgeon:
acurmudgeon Featured By Owner Sep 12, 2015
Happy birthday Diana!  :cake:
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Mock1ngb1rd Featured By Owner Sep 12, 2015
                               Happy Birthday!
Super Fantastic Golden Platter Cake 3D          Singing         Fun cake        Dance!          Super Fantastic Golden Platter Cake 3D
      I wish you all the best and a fantastic day!
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RayRupnow Featured By Owner Sep 12, 2015  Hobbyist Photographer
Happy Birthday beautiful!
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